01 June 2008

Two today

Well, the girl who contacted me yesterday, got ahold of me again today. (15, NY, twins) Anyway, she ended us making me really sad. She told us she went into labor last night and that the girls were 2 and 3 lbs and had tubes all over them. I asked her how many weeks they were, and she said she really didn't know...just that she was about 7 1/2 months along. She also didn't know if the hospital had given her a time frame for how long they would be in the hospital. She told me she didn't know what the name of the hospital she was at, and that this unknown hospital had a computer in every room, so she was surfing and IMing from the hospital. I asked her what city she was in, and she told me she was in New York City, and then when I asked what time it was, so we could figure out the time difference and she could catch me at a later time (she said the nurse came in and was going to let her hold the babies...??with the tubes all over them??...she said "Oh I forgot, I'm actually in Wisconsin...sorry about that." Then she wanted to know if I would like to see pictures of her 11 month old daughter. She sent us pictures of her and her daughter that were taken 2 months ago, and she didn't look pregnant in the pictures. It mostly made me sad, because she just kept on telling me things that just weren't looking like they were true, and she didn't want anything to do with our adoption worker. It makes me mad when someone tries to scam an adoptive couple. Maybe it's all true, and I'm a cynic, but nothing was adding up to me.

On a happier note, while we were at church another girl called and left a message on my cell phone. I called her and she was very nice. She is 3 or 4 months pregnant and is hoping to have her child adopted and raised here in Hawaii, so she didn't think, after talking with me, that we would be a match for her, but she had liked our profile and was very interested in talking with our worker. She sounded very sincere, and I am glad that I was able to help point her in the right direction, even if it doesn't end up being our match. I told her good luck, and she said who knows, maybe I will meet you someday.

1 comment:

Jen said...

What a bummer that there are screwy people like that out there. Have you had many scammer-types contact you before? It must get so frustrating! And that's too bad about the girl in Hawaii. What's the situation like in Alaska? Do you think there tend to be more women (or teenagers) looking to have their children adopted? I know it must be hard in Hawaii because so many of the families just take the kids in and the grandparents end up raising them, but I imagine that is more of a cultural thing you find here than in other states. Hopefully the mainland will hold better luck for you.